Wikipedia defines her as the female parent of a baby, but she is more than that. A mother is the backbone of a home, a care giver and guider. Can be related to you either by birth or through adoption, nonetheless she is the glue that holds a family together. Many at times, we associate mothers to child birth, and bearing, which actually is their supreme goal, but not necessarily all they are cut out to be. Mothers hold an unconditional love for their children, love that is more often abused than appreciated. More often than ever we abuse the love they have for us by viewing them as the ultimate sacrifice who will always give away their dreams and goals for us.
We may not act like we really do but our actions have made motherhood so underrated that we struggle to acknowledge what they represent. Shunning her dreams, a mother over stretches her unconditional love towards the well-being of her children and helping them achieve their goals. That is the upmost act of kindness that should never be taken for granted. In most cases her unconditional love is misused when the society expects her to allow her children do whatever it is that pleases them, by doing so, she would have lost the mothering nature in her.
On several occasions we feel ambivalent towards our mothers mostly when they choose a different path from our expectations; we abuse their acts of kindness by always wanting to dominate. But we fail to understand that like us they to need space, rest, peace, and freedom which in most cases they sacrifice for us. We also drift away and go ballistic; how would it feel if they took away the love? Choices do have consequences so, they say. Our mothers chose to have us and raise us, it’s about time we honored that and stopped harping on the sacrifices, they make for us. No human is perfect, and that applies on our mothers too, by painting an almost divine picture of motherhood we are denying them the ability to be able to accept their shortcomings and live fully. Underestimated as it is, the act of child bearing, and raising stands as the most difficult job ever sought and as much as appreciation is never enough to applause mothers for a work well done. Mother’s Day is a good place to start. In all aspects of life, before you choose to appreciate your mother or not for all the enormous sacrifices they make, always remember…
- She went through nine months of pregnancy and endured labor just so, you may be. Kept vigil on so many nights nursing and rocking you to sleep and comforted you during the stormy nights without relenting.
- You are always a priority in her life and you come first. She let go of so much including her friends and social life just to dedicate her time to you. Skipped a couple of meals to have you fed and allowed you take the last bite evens though she had nothing or very little to eat.
- Children are so unpredictable, and a gleeful moment can end up in tantrums within a flash, do not forget she gave up her quiet place and braved up through your numerous tantrums while trying to make you feel comfortable.
- She fought through thick and thin to see you happy despite the fact that her challenges. She may have endured an abusive or unhappy marriage just to have you thrive.
Motherhood is tasking, time-consuming and exhausting. In most cases we feel like what we do is more important than what they do, but even though they have nothing to show for it, theirs remain a special task. While you wake up and dress for work, she wakes up to messy house that needs her attention, a baby who won’t just keep calm and a husband who needs a well ironed shirt. Normally it’s hard to understand how much she gives, while you sit behind a desk and perform your duties peacefully awaiting pay by the end of the month. She moves from one room to another mostly in a bent back with no salary attached to it and still she attends to you and your meals by the end of the day Every job has a retirement age, but motherhood is timeless and lasts forever. We tend to think we do not need them as time goes by only to end up running back to them in our lowest moments. We would love to forget, but they make the best teachers and counselors. A mother as the light of the home constantly guides us through the right paths in life and offers her wisdom in the choices, we make.
No matter the situation or location be it urban or rural, motherhood cuts a cross and has a great influence over her children and grants them the support they need to better their future. God in his absolute nature trusted a woman to be a shoulder of the home. This literally means she carries everyone, bares their pain and has their souls entrusted in her care. While understanding what you stand for or represent may be tasking, motherhood demand that a mother listens and understands all her children, protects and guides them. Motherhood is daunting, and mothers deserve an accolade for throwing away their youth and risking their lives through child birth. Most of all mothers should be appreciated for never giving up and granting undying love to their children. The older we get, the more cognizant we get over the sacrifices our mothers made for us. It may not be enough to simply say thank you, but we shouldn’t forget to say it either. It neither has a time limit nor come with a pay slip, but it remains the toughest job ever done on earth. A little appreciation will go a long way.